“Since the late 1970s, kids lost 12 hours of free time per week and experienced a 25% decrease in play and a 50% decrease in unstructured outdoor activities (Juster, 2004).” Source: KaBOOM.org: Why Play Matters
Do you sometimes feel like play is a frivolous thing you allow your children to do after all the “work” — of school, organized sports, and extracurricular activities — is done? You are not alone! But that feeling is completely opposite of what you should be feeling.
Play is important! You should be fighting for free play. I want you to feel completely justified in regularly opting out of scheduling activities to squeeze in downtime for essential creative, unstructured, pretend play.
I’m going to start by giving you suggestions on specific actions you can take – and follow up with links to organizations, books, research, and videos that will make it easier for you to understand that play is essential to the development and success of your child.
What is unstructured play?
It’s basically a psychology term for “free play.” Parents can think about it as the kind of pretend play where adults are not interfering or setting any agendas. Other than general safety (are they hurting themselves or others?), there aren’t any rules or order that things need to happen. There are no time limits. It’s just time for kids to play pretend. For my family, unstructured play was just:
- time at the park or playground,
- time with props to build forts or create a work of art without any adult guidance,
- spreading out a vinyl tablecloth on the ground and laying out the Play-doh,
- building forts out of towels, sheets, and pillows,
- taking stuffed animals outside to play,
- laying out a picnic blanket and crawling around.
The ingredients are time, space to play, and freedom of imagination where adults are not interfering with a child’s play. It doesn’t mean you’re not involved, but this play is just child-led.
Why is unstructured play important?
Again, I could link to all the research – and some of the articles under the “Read” section below in answer to this question. But just know that free play is ESSENTIAL for healthy brain development including all sorts of learning processes that will make kids successful in school and research is also starting to come out that it’s essential for emotional health later on in life. Kids who get unstructured play as children turn into teens and adults who have more coping mechanisms and less anxiety.
- Prioritize free play time – whether it’s in nature or the backyard. Make sure the kids get some free play time every day – before the screens, before other scheduled activities. It really is THAT important!
- Tackle some of the questions and actions in the resource section of Last Child in the Woods by Richard Louv (suggest it for your next book club or read with a friend)
- Start an outdoor play group – figure out the model that might work for you
- Pledge to periodically ask yourself “Is there something better they could be doing?” instead of screen time – sometimes the answer is “no” because this is what we need right now, but many times you’ll find the answer is YES
- Pick a new park to visit each week or 3 new parks to visit each week!
- Subscribe to my Weekly Email for playful reminders and Hummingbird Parenting strategies (ways to make small changes to make play time a priority for your family)
- If you are in Orange County, search the LetsGoOutside.org activities and sign up for one that’s appropriate for your family
- How to Raise a Wild Child by Dr. Scott Sampson (includes my “hummingbird parent quote”)
- Last Child in the Woods and Vitamin N by Richard Louv
- Play: How It Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul by Stuart Brown, M.D.
- The Power of Play: Learning What Comes Naturally by David Elkind, Ph.D.
- Balanced and Barefoot: How Unrestricted Outdoor Play Makes for Strong, Confident, and Capable Children by Angela J. Hascomb
- Forward to Nature: Why a Walk in the Woods Could Calm ADHD, Make Your Family Happier, and Deliver Your Kid to Harvard by Richard Louv (ParentMap article)
- Want Your Kids to Get into College? Let Them Play (CNN.com, 2010)
- The Importance of Play in Promoting Healthy Child Development and Maintaining Strong Parent-Child Bonds (Pediatrics, 2007)
- Play Matters: Giving Kids the Childhood They Deserve (Kaboom.org)
- Zero to Eight: Children’s Media Use in America (Infographic from Common Sense Media)
- American Academy of Pediatrics Policy Statement: Children, Adolescents and the Media (Pediatrics, 2013)
- Making Your Kid Play Organized Sports Could Cost Them Their Creativity (QZ, 2014)
- The Overprotected Kid (The Atlantic, 2014)
The Children and Nature Network is home to an extensive and searchable research library in case you are looking for specific articles.
- Alliance for Childhood
- Children and Nature Network
- U.S. Play Coalition
- National Wildlife Federation (awesome resource and ideas for kids)
- Park Rx
- Let Grow (from Free-Range Kids fame, Lenore Skenazy)
- Lego Foundation Research page with lots of research about the importance of playfulness
- Cyberwise.org (Website to help parents of 12 year olds-and-up become good digital citizens)
- Sample iPhone Contract for a 13 Year Old (Huffington Post)
Prescription for Play (Kaboom.org)
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